You know something that’s kind of funny?
I run into people all the time and they say to me:
“Man, you must have some incredibly active sex life.”
A lot of people are under the assumption that I play games, run lines, meet lots of women, and sleep with them consistently.
Yeah, that was me 25 years ago.
But that’s not who I am as a person now.
It’s not that I don’t enjoy sex, it’s not that I don’t enjoy being with a woman, it’s just I feel like it’s a gift when you go and get naked with somebody.
You’re getting raw, you’re letting emotions down, you’re becoming vulnerable with somebody in order to become one with them when you have sex.
Why would I do that with somebody I don’t even know? Why would I do that with a complete stranger just to have sex?
Now I’m not saying that just having sex is a bad thing. (Once again, I did a lot of that in my 20s and 30s.) But at this point in my life, I need that emotional connection. To me, the act of sex is something that is very raw, very vulnerable, and very open.
And I don’t want to get naked with just anybody.
So I felt like sharing that today because I find a lot of women are under the assumption that there’s a different woman in my bed every single night, which isn’t true. The only thing I sleep with every single night is a pillow under my legs.
When I flip over, I make sure that I drag the pillow between my knees because it takes the pressure off my back and it feels better.
But I enjoy sleeping alone.
I would rather sleep alone than have somebody there just for the sake of having somebody. As far as sex is concerned, there has to be an emotional connection. You’ve got to feel somebody; you’ve got desire somebody; you’ve got to want to get raw, open, and vulnerable with somebody. I choose to sleep alone until that time comes.
Now I’m not condemning somebody that wants to sleep around because I did it. I’m not condemning somebody that just wants to have sex.
Different folks, different stroked. (Pun intended.)
. . .
Anyway, I just felt like sharing that because I get lots of e-mail on that subject matter. I just wanted you guys to know me a little bit more.
I would also like to know how you guys feel.
Can you just go and have sex? Can you just screw somebody for the sake of it, or do you need an emotional connection also?
Let me know in the comments below.